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Child Molestation is not a political issue. The issue is moral, ethical and in many cases criminal.
However, recent revelation of Discovery Communications Network -19 Kids and Counting- program reality TV star Josh Duggar December 2006 police report, highlighting how the elder Duggar Son engaged in Child Molestation acts on four out of five of his younger female siblings has been shocking.
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The Duggar's headed by Father, Preacher and former Arkansas State Legislator
James Robert or "Jim Bob" and Michelle Duggar, widely touted their families anointment to the Quiverfull religious Movement.
Within the movement some would describe as a Cult, leaders such as Bill Gothard former head of the Bible Principles Institute and Douglas Phillips have been forced to step down over the last year; due to a litany of child molestation allegations and lawsuits exposed on websites such as Patheos and Recovering Grace.
Yet, what has and will continue to be discussed concerning the Duggar's is not at its' core a political issue, as it is a moral and ethical call.
The case of Lena Dunham exposed in late 2014 has raised questions on if some
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Actress and Author Lena Durham described
highly questionable sexual actions toward
her Younger Sister in a 2014 publication.
A highly questionable section of Dunham's autobiography publication titled, "Not That Type of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She Learned" published in September 2014, should have not passed the editors eyes without raising concerns and many suspicions.
The passage reads as follows in Dunham publication (Warning - The Passage Contains Graphic Language and Details):
“Do we all have uteruses?” I asked my mother when I was seven.
“Yes,” she told me. “We’re born with them, and with all our eggs, but they start out very small. And they aren’t ready to make babies until we’re older.” I look at my sister, now a slim, tough one-year-old, and at her tiny belly. I imagined her eggs inside her, like the sack of spider eggs in Charlotte’s Web, and her uterus, the size of a thimble.
“Does her vagina look like mine?”
“I guess so,” my mother said. “Just smaller.”
One day, as I sat in our driveway in Long Island playing with blocks and buckets, my curiosity got the best of me. Grace was sitting up, babbling and smiling, and I leaned down between her legs and carefully spread open her vagina. She didn’t resist and when I saw what was inside I shrieked.
My mother came running. “Mama, Mama! Grace has something in there!”
My mother didn’t bother asking why I had opened Grace’s vagina. This was within the spectrum of things I did. She just got on her knees and looked for herself. It quickly became apparent that Grace had stuffed six or seven pebbles in there. My mother removed them patiently while Grace cackled, thrilled that her prank had been a success."Other parts of Dunham book described how she liked repeatedly kissing her younger sibling in the mouth, bribing her with candy to do so and fondling herself while sitting beside the bed of the younger sibling.
Since writing the book, Dunham has called the behavior described in her publication as followed according to Buzzfeed:
“I want to be very clear that I do not condone any kind of abuse under any circumstances.
“Childhood sexual abuse is a life-shattering event for so many, and I have been vocal about the rights of survivors. If the situations described in my book have been painful or triggering for people to read, I am sorry, as that was never my intention. I am also aware that the comic use of the term ‘sexual predator’ was insensitive, and I’m sorry for that as well.
“As for my sibling, Grace, she is my best friend, and anything I have written about her has been published with her approval.”There is no comic usage or jokes about any behavior of a sexual predator type nature no matter who does it, admits to it or describes it in a book.
Stop Abuse Campaign advocate Melanie Blow analysis of Dunham's written words about her Sister confirms if the author was not describing multiple incidents of sexual molestation, it was most definitely a rather graphic description of extreme inappropriate abusive behavior.
In at least one of the accounts I read of this, Lena refers to her sister as her best friend. That means she’s unlikely to drag Lena to court. It is important to remember that in any family where child sexual abuse was committed, the victim likely has very complex feelings for their abuser. This is one major argument for Statute of Limitations reform- victims need time to process those complex feelings.
How can someone be best friends with someone who sexually abused them? Most children are sexually abused by someone they know and trust, usually someone who plays a major role in their life. It’s hard to cut any major player out of your life- that’s why ending bad relationships hurts. And ending abusive ones usually hurts more. The depth and complexity of the relationship two people have with each other isn’t undone by abuse.
Another interesting facet to this is that Lena’s little sister was too young to have conscious memories of parts of the abuse, and may not consider the rest to be abusive. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t damaging. While vivid, graphic memories are among the most vexing effects of child sexual abuse for many survivors, survivors who don’t experience them still suffer other effects.
No study I’m aware of has ever revealed an age or circumstance under which child sexual abuse is harmless. Since we now know that sexual abuse changes victims’ brain structure, immune system, endocrine system and DNA expression, it stands to reason that children sexually abused as infants, while comatose or while under anesthesia will still suffer negative effects from it.
Another tangent I’ve seen from this discussion is “how could any parent let this happen”- Lena says her mother knew at least some of what she was doing to her sister. There is an over-all disbelief that children can commit sexual abuse, and there is a general belief that my child won’t do it.In a society made up of laws, ethics and what should be moral standards, we should be very careful not to let allegations of sexual abusive behavior of children be dismissed by the petty political debate. Petty in the sense of political seasons, positions and stances come, grow and change. However, the alleged abuse of children does not.
This means when a parent- whose convinced their child will never commit something this atrocious- finds their child doing just that, they have a very vested interest in convincing themselves nothing is really going on. If confronted with absolutely undeniable proof that abuse is happening, some parents blame the victim, some abuse the abusive child, some hope that a stern lecture will fix things, and a wise, lucky few enlist the professional help that is what the situation requires."
The actions are wrong whether it is a martyr on the Political Right, Left or Center.
As in the case of Josh Duggar and the Duggar adults Jim Bob and Michelle who've on the surface appear to have covered up their son Josh questionable actions, for monetary gain of a reality TV contract with Discovery Networks.
Or Lena Dunham, former spokeswoman in commercials for the Planned Parenthood organization, whose rather graphic descriptions in autobiography regarding highly inappropriate sexual behavior towards a younger sibling was called out in Truth Revolt, owned by a conservative blogger.
Sexual Molestation and any description or cover up their of, deserves the condemnation of others who believe this type of abuse of children is wrong. However, we must not forget about the victims while discussing the accused as they are the ones who will live with what occurred to by conning manipulation or force - for a lifetime.